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Emotional CPR: cognitive, physiological, and resets

9/1/2019

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When you’re feeling anxious, upset, angry, or otherwise in a bad emotional state, a good general approach to fix it, in escalating levels of time and probability of success, is to do emotional CPR. CPR stands for cognitive, physiological, and reset. 

Cognitive refers to cognitive approaches, using just your mind. They’re usually the quickest and least intensive ways of fixing something. They aren’t necessarily easy per se, but they are not very disruptive. If you’re having a bad time at the office or in a difficult conversation, you can do it without anybody noticing. They also are often quite quick. 

These involve things like:
  • Challenging distorted thoughts
  • Reframing the situation
  • Applying mindfulness
  • The wise woman exercise
  • Doing a quick attempt at problem-solving
  • Counting backwards from fifty. ​

​If those don’t work, changing your physiology will often do the trick. Sometimes your thoughts cause your feelings, but sometimes your feelings cause your thoughts, and a way to kickstart your feelings is to change your chemistry. This can be things like: 
  • Doing a quick bout of exercise (jogging, dancing, jumping jacks)
  • Splashing your face with cold water
  • Taking a walk outside
  • Having an espresso
  • Situation permitting, having a drink

Lastly, if none of those work, you can do what I call a hard emotional reset. If physiology is like closing a program and restarting it to see if it stops glitching, an emotional reset is restarting the whole computer. What constitutes an emotional reset will vary from person to person, but the general approach is to pull out all the stops. Some examples might be: 
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  • Getting a bag of popcorn and some hot chocolate, watching your favorite comedy, ideally with a partner or close friend, then playing a fun board game with them. 
  • Going out to a party and drinking and dancing. 
  • Going out to a park or the woods with a book and hiking, reading, and meditating in nature.

Whatever your cup of tea is, it’s one of the things that reliably gets your mind off the problem (perceived or actual) and gets you in a good mood. This, understandably, should be saved for last because it takes more time and energy investment. Sometimes it can be short, but from what I’ve seen, for most people, if the things before haven’t worked, usually it takes at least an hour to fully reset. 

So the quick recap is:
  • Cognitive
  • Physiology
  • Reset

​I hope that the next time you’re feeling down that following this method will help you. 
1 Comment
Samuel Hilton
1/1/2020 03:03:58 pm

Hi Kate, thank you so much for writing this!

I have been thinking about this recently with the angle of aiming not just to avoid the downs but to be super amazingly full of joy all of the time.

My idea is to try to build a deliberate habit of going into things that I really enjoy (or taking time out breaks during things I enjoy) in a way that let’s me really relish in positive the experience. In practice this means deliberately taking action that is:

1. Cognitive: recognising how amazing the experience I am partaking in is, how much I love the person I am talking to, how beautiful the world around me is, how tasty the food is, etc. Maybe using mindfulness or reframing or a sense of bigger perspective.

2. Physiological: can I throw more of myself into this action. Eg: can I tell my friend how much I appreciate them, can I jump for joy or sing whilst I walk, etc. Because sometimes your physical chemistry can boost your joy.

3. Reseting: if necessary being aware that there maybe other things I could be doing that would bring me even more exuberant joy, (I am not always sure what will make me super happy at a specific point and I might have guessed wrong, eg agreed to go dancing when I am not 100% in the mood for dancing).

Happy to chat through someday if you like. Sam :-)

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